If your nervous system is TRAPPED in chronic dysregulation, you physically CANNOT relax (attempting to *force* relaxation literally makes you more anxious).

If this sounds like you — you likely hold within you REPRESSED ANGER, generational trauma, and/or trapped emotions. What you need to understand to move forward is that your body quite literally believes it will DIE if you chill…

This kind of DNA engrained biological response requires a physically active somatic release. Emotions are E-nergy in MOTION, and when we hold repressed emotions for years inside our body, they require movement to release and properly process.

Below is my process for opening your energy by releasing trapped emotions: 

SELF-FORGIVENESS AND CULTIVATING ACCEPTANCE + LOVE

As a woman, your feminine energy is your DIVINE LIFE FORCE. It’s your source of creation and imagination – it’s your inner safety and your guidance system. When your feminine energy doesn’t have space to live and thrive in your body, you’ll externalize it’s lack with hyper-vigilance, overworking, and self-sabotage

The importance of holding intentional space for your feminine is to lead you back to yourself, to allow yourself to be taken care of, and to equally identify and attract men who are leading with their healthy masculine.

ACTION PLAN: 

Every morning upon waking, you need to drain your lymphatic system. There’s a graphic below of a full body drain, but if you’re short on time, focus on draining the face, neck, collarbones, and armpits–NON NEGOTIABLE.

For the next 90 days, your INTENTION is playfulness –we want to take off the pressure of doing everything all the time and isolating instead of asking for help

Flow over “force” = you’ve stepped into a role of CONTROL as an attempt to fix chaos, or feelings of being “unsafe”; part of ALLOWING yourself to be taken care of is going to be forgiveness…

Forgiving YOURSELF for feeling like you HAD to step into this role where you can’t trust and rely on others (and the associated feelings such as: isolation, loneliness, frustration, disappointment, etc.)

DAILY FEMININE WIFE AFFIRMATIONS: (to be repeated to yourself out loud as you look at yourself in the mirror every day–at least 3 times in the morning first thing when you wake up and 3 times at night before you go to sleep)

1. I am so grateful to consistently take care of myself and ask for what I need so that my cup NEVER runs dry and that I’m able to pour into my business, marriage, home, and family from the overflow!
2. I am grateful that my husband sees me and wants what is best for me and that I can rely on him as much as he is supported by my financial success!
3. I remember when I was struggling to feel supported by others, by my business/income, and even by my husband…and NOW I have a stronger marriage that nurtures transparency, honesty, and safety, a business that channels infinite money into my bank account, and a community of supportive women so that I can feel safe to receive more than I ever dreamed possible!

15-20 minutes daily journaling and BODY WORK 

Questions to ask yourself and journal on at least once a week:

• How am I letting life be EASIER for me, without “having” less 
• How am I allowing my playful, creative, FUN side to come out and be SEEN? (What hobbies, groups, events, or skills am I pursuing that activate my creativity and have no “agenda”//are JUST for me?)
• What tasks can I ASK MY HUSBAND TO HELP WITH (and trust to be done correctly, rather than needing them to be done perfectly)?
• How am I asking for support from him DAILY so I feel seen and safe with him?
• Do I feel EMOTIONALLY supported and safe to relax inside my own body? How am I creating “rest and relax” experiences for myself as part of my daily routine?

BODY WORK (for processing, forgiveness + creating more space for emotions/emotional regulation)– check in with yourself as you identify the EMOTIONS attached to this forgiveness process. 

Your body will tell you which ones are “stuck” with you – if you create PRESENCE in the moment, and shut EVERYTHING else off (with the exception of meditation music//sound frequencies if you choose,) and say or think each emotion that you believe is tied to the inability to relax and trust//hyper-vigilance and the associated negative experiences…which ones do you FEEL?

If you say or think an emotion that triggers a physical response, that emotion is LIVING in your body and is impacting your life.

In the quiet, centered, safe place you’ve chosen, ask yourself if you are READY to feel this emotion to process and release it…

If the answer feels like yes (try muscle testing if you aren’t sure) then give yourself a few moments to repeat the emotion out loud to yourself. Let the FEELING come up without judgment, without running away from it, and without going back into the EXPERIENCE. Just let the emotion come up.

Let yourself cry, yell, breathe, dance, or shake out your body. Create MOVEMENT as you feel the emotion. Let it become “unstuck” from wherever it’s living in your body-–like you’re shaking up a bottle of water with settled dirt at the bottom–let the emotions come UP and OUT of your body!

Once you feel you have fully FELT the emotion, tell yourself you are ready to let it go. Imagine the emotion encased in a balloon. With several deep breaths, each exhale expands the balloon to become bigger and bigger. When you’re ready to let the “balloon” go, bless the energy (because energy cannot be created or destroyed and we don’t want it negatively falling on anyone else so we transmute the energy into POSITIVE) and see yourself release and let it float away!

DEEP belly breaths for 5 minutes (inhale for 4 counts, breathe out 6 counts)– center, ground into your body, and let your breath guide you to a sense of calm and relief –> bonus points if you do this with your legs up against the wall

As your body shifts into a calm and regulated state, repeat your affirmations to yourself. The peace in your body will connect you ACCEPT these affirmations as truth, and will therefore become reflected in your reality naturally.

Repeat as needed

I would recommend accompanying this practice with a daily walk in the sun, as well as a weekly/biweekly massage, acupuncture, cupping, or cranial sacral session – trust your body to tell you what feels most supportive!

Find time to connect with nature as you connect deeper into your feminine. Nature will bridge the gap between you and your divine feminine energy by “charging” you to Earth’s vibrational frequency resonance (7.83 HERTZ)

As you choose to ground yourself into the Earth’s Resonance, you become one in nature. 

This is especially important for women, because the feminine IS Earth’s frequency; ie the Earth is the source of life, and so is your feminine…