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Modern Single Women: Empowered or Entitled?

In a world where women’s empowerment is a rallying cry, and independence is celebrated, the portrayal of the modern single woman often teeters between two extremes: empowered heroine or entitled diva.

But let’s be real, folks – reality is rarely so black and white. I see and talk to women who are constantly vacillating between both, and it has become a hard line to walk.

So, let’s delve into the labyrinth of modern femininity and see if we can decode whether our single sisters are truly empowered or merely indulging in a spot of entitlement.

First off – what does it mean to be empowered?

Empowerment, in its essence, embodies a sense of agency, autonomy, and self-determination.

It’s about women taking charge of their lives, pursuing their dreams, and making choices that align with their values and desires. Now, let’s contrast that with entitlement – a mindset characterized by the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment, often without regard for merit or effort.

To unravel this conundrum, let’s peek into the lives of modern single women. Research indicates that single women today are more educated, financially independent, and career-driven than ever before. They’re breaking glass ceilings, shattering stereotypes, and forging their paths. This autonomy and self-sufficiency scream empowerment from the rooftops.

I’m HERE for the women who make their own money and live a rich, full, independent life. I’m here for the boss babes, the rich b*tches, the women who take advantage of the ability we have now, (that has never been available in American society before) to create our own financial security.

However, empowerment isn’t just about career success or financial prowess.

It’s also about owning one’s choices – whether it’s choosing to be single, pursuing unconventional paths, or prioritizing personal growth over societal expectations. And while it’s certainly raised the bar on dating prospects and the overall quality of relationships, I have seen as a dating coach + relationship expert that dating has also been HARDER for women than it’s ever been.

Is that a good or a bad thing?

Let’s not ignore the more sinister shadows that accompany empowerment: entitlement

I have encountered more and more instances where entitlement rears its head – moments when some single women demand the world on a silver platter, expecting Prince Charming to ride in on a unicorn and fulfill their every whim. But modern single women are not damsels in distress awaiting a knight in shining armor (anymore.)

Can we have our cake and eat it, too?

Independence is AMAZING. Realizing your worth and living up to your own value is everything. However… if no men can live up to your expectations, is it more important to “be a queen” or is there a point of diminishing returns?

If you are a woman who is struggling to make lasting connections with men, you HAVE to be able to see where you’re actually filling both the roles of the relationship out of fear. My opinion is that women are edging out/disqualifying men because they are actually afraid of being hurt more than they’re afraid of settling.

Women have NEVER had the options available that we have now. Options are a great thing. But the inability to see men as fallible, imperfect beings who are going to fail and get things wrong–and holding space for them to be so without running out on a good thing OR accepting bad behavior is the most important line you’ll ever walk.

So, where does that leave us? Are modern single women empowered or entitled?

The answer, my friends, lies in the gray areas of human existence. Yes, there are moments of empowerment, where single women seize control of their destinies and thrive on their own terms. However, it’s no secret that the modern woman is struggling to find a lasting connection like women never have before.

But let’s not reduce the narrative to a simplistic dichotomy.

Let’s celebrate the complexity and nuance of modern womanhood – the victories, the struggles, and everything in between. Because whether empowered or entitled, single women are multifaceted beings worthy of respect, admiration, and yes, the occasional eye-roll. After all, isn’t that what makes life interesting?

What do you think? Let me know in the comments!


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